Our Dating Story
My husband Dennis and I have made dating a priority in our lives every since a mentor encouraged us to keep that as a regular practice as part of building a healthy marriage. I can’t exactly pinpoint how often we dated over the 25 years we’ve been married, but I can tell you approximately how many dates we have gone on since Jan. 2013, 180+ dates. How do I know? That is the year we began to to date weekly.
You see Dennis and I had experienced a very difficult year in 2012. We both ended up in the hospital, and we both had surgery that year. We actually were trying out the Date Night Challenge that August, 4 Dates/4 Weeks but date number 3 is a picture of my husband in a sling visiting me in a hospital bed. Lousiest date ever!! So when Jan. 2013 rolled around we felt pretty worn out like we had just barely survived 2012. That year was a rude awakening for us that not only are you not promised tomorrow but that if tomorrow comes it may not be a great experience. So we got to talking about the fact that we never got to finish the Date Night Challenge, we also felt the need to seize the day, celebrate that we had survived but hoped 2013 might be a year of not just surviving, but thriving! That is when we decided to give ourselves a bigger challenge than 4 Dates/4 Weeks. We decided to go for 52 dates in 52 weeks. To focus on making 2013 a year to remember in a positive way.
I have to say that at the time I had heard the report about dating weekly improves the happiness in your marriage three fold I was a little skeptical. After all, Dennis and I were happily married, and while not pulling off weekly dates we did date fairly regularly, so how could it increase our happiness that much? I am happy to say I was proved wrong. Dennis and I did succeed in our 52 date challenge and at the end of the year I was surprised to feel at least three times happier! This was such an amazing experiment, that we decided there was no way we were going to quit. The next year we renewed our commitment to a 52 date challenge, and the next year, and the next. We’ve been doing this long enough now that I have noticed some unexpected benefits that I wanted to share with you. Dating every week doesn’t mean you won’t experience hard times or that you won’t experience struggles in your marriage, we’ve had our share of both, but dating every week helps you survive both. It’s like creating a emergency savings account that gives you something to draw on when you do hit those challenging times. It helps you make it through them together. I have been super grateful for the difference it has made in my life, I hope you will try out your own dating challenge and why not start by laughing with us on Aug. 5th at the comedy night and go from there?
I hope to see you there!!